I agree that your sworn financial statement needs to reflect the situation as it exists on the date that you have the document notarized, but you may want to use extra space on the document to add a notation that says something like "I will not be able to work for my current employer upon the date of divorce because..."
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When you say you are serving the "obligor" I wonder if you mean that you are also serving child support related documents. I recommend that you spend an hour with an attorney to make sure all of this is done right the first time. You do need to have him served in jail and you probably need to discuss with an attorney whether you should be filing a petition or a motion and how service...
It can be done without an attorney, although I would not necessarily advise it. I have done several "mediations" for clients in your situation and from beginning to end, I can generally get it done for about $750 plus court filing fees. It takes about 2 sessions of roughly 2 hours for each session to get the job done... again, I don't think you are going to save anything by trying to get it done by yourselves... generally, doing so leaves too many loose ends that you will have to revisit....
You REALLY need to discuss all of the advantages and disadvantages of these decisions with a divorce attorney and/or an adoptions attorney. These are very serious questions with tens (if not hundreds) of thousands of dollars at issue and parenting time and decision-making for 19 years at issue. This is a complicated subject. Please get personalized advice for at least an hour.
I think the answer to this one is complicated - with respect to "full custody" the answer is that you probably don't need to do that... most parenting plans have a section that says "for school purposes ONLY" one of the parents is designated as the primary parent. I don't necessarily think it effects your parenting just because the school needs an answer to that question. You should seek a consultation with an attorney about whether you need to file anything.
The answer is that you may pay for daycare on your days (at your election), but that you should be credited for that daycare expense in your child support worksheet, which may need to be recalculated. If there is more than a 10% change in your overall child support obligation because of that or any number of other reasons, you may file for a motion to modify child support (and get your child support reduced) in order to help you with those costs. You should consult an attorney.
Yes... you can FILE anywhere... the other side could object to the venue though and file to change it to the county in which you live... A partial answer to your question is that if the respondent is served in the county in which you are filing, that county could probably hold on to jurisdiction, but normally, the jurisdiction follows either the county in which the Respondent lives or the county in which the Respondent is served (especially if the other party lives in that county).
Technically, almost any debt incurred during a marriage is marital debt, which is split "equitably." That does not mean "equally". Many judges in situations like these will assign him his legal fee debt and not to her (especially if she represents herself). Nevertheless, there are other judges that can split the debt equally. There is case law to support your sister's position, but my experience is that guys like this abuse their wives in divorces just as they do in their marriages.
They will catch up with your ex and he/she will be more severely punished for not showing up. Sometimes they double the sentence. If she turns herself in, they will go lighter on her than if they have to seek her out.