If wife jointly owned car or house those assets were be hers. If no will in Indiana what she gets depends on whether she had kids with the deceased man as to what share she got. Spouses who have had children together are entitled to more. In all likelihood the assets will be split between child and spouse. On top of that remember that bills such as funeral expenses may need to be paid before anyone gets anything
It would appear to be valid (assuming all the other deed requirements are in place). Recording a deed is not necessary to make the transfer valid, it is so that other people are put on notice of the transfer. The recorder's office doesn't "validate" or warrant the quality of the transfer, just that the requirements for recordation have been met.
If your name is on the deed, you are an owner of the property. What that means may vary. For example, is there debt tied to the land (i.e. a mortgage). Are you on the note? In either event, you are still an "owner" but the value of that ownership may vary. Indiana law doesn't require you to continue to own it with him or to lock you together with your boyfriend. There is an action called a "partition" which allows you or he to file a suit to divide the property. If the property cannot be split...
Very sorry to hear of your loss. We probably need more facts. depending on how the house was deeded and the value of the home, and her other bills, there may be no need to probate her estate. In terms of your ongoing bills, often Indiana townships have trustees that can help you with utilities, etc. which may help allow you to make ends meet. Also, consider whether the house may be too much for you to handle financially. Best of luck.
Call an attorney immediately. There are a number of factors that will determine if she is or is not incompetent and in need of a guardian. In addition, even if she needs one, who should fill that role is up to the judge. If the daughter really stole her money that can and should influence the judge's decision. If your wife truly has dementia your best option any to attempt to fill that role for her
If you don't have a written lease you don't have a written agreement to pay utilities.That would leave you with a "he says, she says" situation and if the landlord sued you, the landlord would have to prove that it was more likely than not your responsibility to pay the utility bills. The landlord also has to provide you with either (a) a written breakdown of the use of your deposit within 45 days of your written notice of where you can be located; or, (b) refund all your money. So, check on...
File a small claims court eviction. These are simple and are filed by lay people every day. Ask the court staff for help and they are usually helpful in pointing you in the right direction. Whatever you do, don't trash the property or you put yourself in harms way for legal action by the squatter.