That's an interesting question on an issue I have not directly dealt with before. Juveniles can give testimony in court. Outside of court, their parents need to be there if the police want to do more than make an initial inquiry into whether a crime may have occurred. The police may have encountered a judge who is unwilling to issue a warrant based on information received from a juvenile.
If someone has your property, then you can always bring a civil lawsuit and avoid the police altogether....
The case may be reviewed that day to see if you complied with any payment of fines, court costs, restitution, etc.
Better to go to court and address any remaining issues than to have the judge issue a bench warrant.
You have not actually asked a question. You are now looking at paying a lawyer more to try to get the case straightened out than you would have paid to get it done right the first time. Go to the court clerk's office, get a video copy of your hearing, and take it to a lawyer ASAP. The clock on your "appeal" is running...
Expect to pay by the hour with a retainer up front, or a flat fee, before "a lawyer who's not afraid to confront the system" takes time from their other cases to work on yours.
With the new court rules, you could file the divorce here and not have to go to court in Boone County to get the divorce finalized. Or you could contact a lawyer when you get to Bell County and have the money.
Every attorney sets their own price. Some attorneys may work with you on payments. You should go with someone you are comfortable with who will get your case done as quickly as you are able to do your part.
Visitation is either by agreement or court order. A person can be held "accountable" for violating a court order. There are parenting time guidelines. To find out how they might apply to your situation, you should speak to a lawyer who practices in this area of the law.
You can express your wishes in a will, but it would be up to a court to determine who should raise your son. A "friend" is not a traditionally-favored person under the law. A follow-up question from an attorney might be what kind of rights you would be willing to give the friend now, and to what extent the friend uses those rights, that could help accomplish your goal in the event something happens to you.
I defer to my learned colleague's detailed response, because I do not practice immigration law, but I am a criminal lawyer. For anyone else reviewing this question in the future, these issues need to be addressed prior to any plea agreement or criminal trial. You should not have this kind of question now.