The quick answer to your question is: Yes, the judge will probably grant your wife a divorce on the grounds of inappropriate marital conduct. The truth is, judges in Shelby County will grant a divorce for almost any reason.
In Tennessee, grounds exist to terminate parental rights if a parent willfully fails to visit, support or make reasonable payments toward the support of a child for a period of 4 consecutive months prior to the filing of the proceeding to terminate the parental rights.
You can file the divorce papers asking for a divorce on the grounds of Irreconcilable Differences (an uncontested divorce) and on other grounds (Inappropriate Marital Conduct, etc). That way, if your husband does not cooperate by allowing you to take the divorce on Irreconcilable Differences, you can take it on the other grounds listed in the divorce papers.
If you want to sue your husband for divorce, you may be able to get alimony (which might be considered a form of "allowance"). However, I do not believe that a court can simply make him give you money as an allowance. It can be very dangerous for someone in your position not to know what goes on with the family finances. You may not need to look at divorce, but you almost certainly need to try to open up communication with your husband regarding family finances and access to family money. you...
You can do a name change in either Chancery, Circuit or Probate Court in Shelby County. They are all in the same building downtown. Probate is probably the most "user friendly" court for this type of matter. Most folks can do this without the help of a lawyer, but it is easier (although a lot more expensive) if you use one. You might try to simply call the Probate Court Clerk office and ask to speak to someone about doing a Minor's Name Change, and take it from there.
You need to file a petition to change custody. If the divorce was granted in Tennessee, our law will apply and you should be able to get a change of custody based on what you have stated. You may also be able to get your alimony obligation reduced or stopped based on the fact that your ex is living with someone else.
If the value of your business (or other asset) increased during the marriage, it is possible that she may be entitled to a portion of the increase. For example, if the business was worth $500,000 at the date of your marriage and is worth $600,000 today, she may be entitled to a portion of the $100,000 increase. It is not automatic by any means.The decisive factor will be whether or not she did anything that substantially contributed to the increase in the value of the business. Also, the short...
If you were married at the time of the birth, the child is presumed to be yours. The most common way to overcome that presumption is by DNA test. Unless you have submitted to one, there is no basis for removing your name from the birth certificate. A court will generally not hear your wife's request to remove your name unless a natural father is asking to be declared the father.