If this occurred in Mecklenburg County, an experienced attorney should be able to contest any use of the blood result at trial. We have multiple magistrates on duty 24 hours per day and the process for obtaining a warrant is streamlined.
You should not have to pay the medical bill.
Absolutely you should have a lawyer. You should get started right away, as an experienced attorney can lead you through the steps required to regain your right to drive after only 10 days. Often there are ways to win your case and avoid any other penalty; if not, a lawyer can help you minimize the damage.
While you are likely not eligible for expungement, an experienced lawyer could examine all the documents and circumstances in your case and possibly find grounds for a motion to set aside your conviction, known in NC as a Motion for Appropriate Relief.
You should check the Judgment; any probation from a 2011 conviction has likely expired. However, DMV will not restore your license until the treatment recommended by your assessment has been satisfied.
The insurance implications of a conviction are based upon your record over the past 3 years. Usually, an experienced attorney can find a way to avoid or reduce insurance points with this sort of charge.
As crazy as it sounds, this is not a slam dunk winner for you. The State must prove you were operating the vehicle on a highway, street, or "public vehicular area" (PVA). Under NC law, operation includes being in actual physical control of a vehicle with the motor running or in motion. A driveway may or may not be a PVA, depending on the circumstances. You should seek the help of an experienced attorney to fight for you.
I represented a license holder at a DMV hearing in Charlotte with, based on your information above, similar charges on his record. At the hearing yesterday, 11/13, we were successful in obtaining conditional restoration of his driver license. You must be able to prove that you have been completely abstinent from alcohol for at least one year.
Once your lawyer has obtained a dismissal of the charge, you may have a claim for damages against your daughter-in-law, which might put you in a better position to seek some access to your grandson. An experienced lawyer will be able to evaluate your situation.