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Mary G. Commander

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  • I wish to vacate my adoption in Virginia in order to have my birth certificate of record show my natural birth father.

    what is the procedure for this in virginia

    Mary’s Answer

    I am assuming that you are an adult. You can do an adult adoption upon the petition of your birth father.

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  • My license was suspended due to child support arrears. A DL is required by my current employer. How can it be reinstated?

    I have been paying $750 per month in child support for over 6yrs via payroll deduction. I was pulled over yesterday for a minor traffic violation & my license was taken for being suspended due to $23k in arrears. My contact information has always ...

    Mary’s Answer

    Contact Division of Child Support Enforcement. They can work out a payment plan that can get your license back.

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  • Where do we file for parental removal from non-custodial parent?

    I have full physical and legal custody of my daughter. The biological father does pay child support, but hasn't seen or talked to my daughter in 3 years. I just recently located to Virginia from California. I also just got married, and my husband ...

    Mary’s Answer

    You must live in Virginia for 6 months to qualify as a resident and file.

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  • Can I add my military husband to my daughter's birth certificate and we have joint custody if I do not know her biological fathe

    My husband has been in her life and taken care of her since day one, although I know he is not her biological father, I want her to have our last name and him to have custody

    Mary’s Answer

    Your husband would need to adopt the child.

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  • Procedures for adopting my partners child in Virginia?

    We are a same sex couple and are currently pregnant (via IUI); in preparation for their arrival what are the procedures for adoption in Virginia?

    Mary’s Answer

    If you and your partner are married, this can be handled as a step-parent adoption. If you are not married, adoption will not be possible.

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  • Father signed birth certificate knowing he isnt the biological father and we are unmarried can he get custody if seperate ?

    seperated from boyfriend he is wanting custody of my child that isnt biologicaly his but he sign the birth certificate and he is fighting me for custody

    Mary’s Answer

    "In any case involving the custody or visitation of a child, the court may award custody upon petition to any party with a legitimate interest therein, including, but not limited to, grandparents, stepparents, former stepparents, blood relatives and family members. The term "legitimate interest" shall be broadly construed to accommodate the best interest of the child."

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  • I would like to know if I would be entitled to get any form of support from my estranged husband jhe moved out the end of Feb

    I have pictures where he listed his self in dating sites also while still living here with me, He knew I was not making hardly any money when he left

    Mary’s Answer

    You can file a petition for spousal support in the Juvenile and Domestic Relations District Court where you live. The court has guidelines that are used for determining the amount, if any, of support.

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  • What steps do I have to take to start a FAULT divorce in the state of VA?

    I am looking to get a divorce particularly a fault divorce on the grounds of sodomy and soon to be adultry. I have proof to back up my claims and I also want to file for full custody of our daughter seeing as I do not feel it is a safe environment...

    Mary’s Answer

    You would file a complaint for divorce in the Circuit Court. You are deemed to have condoned the fault if you continue to live with your spouse with knowledge that this occurred.

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  • My wife left me 3 years ago and has not returned. What is the least expensive way I can get a divorce?

    Good morning: I am a resident of Portsmouth, Virginia and am permanently and totally disabled. 3 years ago this past April my wife left me 5 days after I informed her of my ultimate prognosis of paralysis due to bone/spine disease. We have no chil...

    Mary’s Answer

    You may be eligible for legal representation through Legal Aid. If so, they can help you process a no fault divorce based on a one year separation.

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  • Do I have to return my daughter to the Custodial parent if I think abuse is happening? I have joint/legal custody

    My daughter has complained that she is being abused and she begs not to go back to her mother's home she is 6 years old. Saturday my visitation ends but my daughter is begging and crying that she wants to stay with me. What should I do and will I ...

    Mary’s Answer

    You can call Child Protective Services. They will investigate and have the power to remove children in cases that are appropriate. Without CPS involvement, you must comply with the existing court orders.

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