You need to talk to an attorney but the aggressive response is that the longer she is away, the more comfortable I am with you changing the locks. It's time for her to have to talk to an attorney. If she is gone, then you can change the locks.
You, and not the lawyer control the case. The lawyer can only advise you, if you are uncomfortable with the direction you should have a very candid discussion with your lawyer and tell him/her your views. If you are unable to come to a resolution or if your trust in his advice has been broken , you should email him or write to him and formaly tell him that you are no longer retaining his services. Then you should interview other attorneys , you will find one that shares your views and does...
You cant steal your own car if you report it to the police and they get it back for you. Also, if you want to avoid the police involvemet than you should file a complaint for divorce and file a motion to compel him to turn the car over to you. But, you can not have it all ways .... if he is not a nice guy you will not just get your car back. You have to do something.
You should contact the Ocean County Court House and ask them to send you the package for divorce when you represent yourself....it is called the pro se package. When you contact the court inquire wether the documents are on line. You may also contact legal aid of Ocean county to see if you can have the filing fees waived. They may be able to help you with the charges.
If the father raises the issue he has the right to a DNA test. I know it can be very tough on a child however you can just blame it on the court . However, if he has "affirmed " his fatherhood in the court he may be barred from now taking a different position . This approach however will need an attorney to sort through the facts.
There has to be an assessment by you of the percentage that your wife helps you financially or expends on behalf of the expenses. The best way is to try to do it without her expenses or financial assistance included. This is the rub... it is not always clear what percentage to assign to her....but try to be consistent in your position.
The answers so far tell you what to do. But you must do something. The sooner the better. If you wait you will have a much more difficult time than if you do something now. I would suggest talking to an attorney.
You should ask your friend ( the attorney) just what laws are out there "pending" that would hold you to a level of culpability for not "disclosing" what you know. Odds are they dont exist. When a spouse infects the other the infected spouse may have a Tevis cause of action for damages against the spouse. And yes there is a particularly difficult burden of proof.
You would have to pay child support even though you are unemployed. Your husband's income should not be included in your income. You will not be able to get an increase in past or back child support. That is simply not allowed.
The general answer is no. Once a child has been in NJ for a period of six months the state of NJ has jurisdiction over your child and neither parent is allowed to remove the child. Of course, it is up to the remaining parent to bring the issue to court if she does move out of the state of NJ. If the remaining parent does not do anything the new state may then become the home state of the child.