Can my wife take our take return without my knowledge?

Obviously you answered your own question yes she can and did, perhaps speak to a divorce Attorney?

Run don't walk in having your family lawyer file an enforcement action.

Can I get custody of my minor granddaughter?

Consult a local family/custody lawyer in your area.

Call police or sue him in Court.............................................any reason you can't hold your own money?

If i stop reporting 3 months before my probation stops will my probation stop. its a misdemeanor

Yes a warrant will issue which will toll your probation.

What kind of punishment is my friend facing and/ or what should she do?

Run don't walk in consulting a local Criminal Defense Attorney.

I was the 3rd car in an accident. Noting the details, is it worth it to fight the "following too close" citation?

Always best to consult a local traffic ticket attorney to see if they can get the case dismissed.

No clue work it out call homeowners insurance to pay, find better roommate or move.

Can't teach it on this website best to consult a local divorce lawyer in your area.

What do I do/ can I sue?

Sue the person who made the claim he saw you masturbate, perhaps get off this site and consult a local lawyer as this is public nationwide.