Can an HOA tow a car from our parking lot that has a valid Association visitor pass properly displayed?

Yes the HOA should substantiate their claim. No you should not be treated unfairly. yes you should take them to Court.

How likely is a 14 YO to be placed with non-familial friends after parents lose custody if both parties agree to an arrangement?

No way to tell if the Courts or Cps approve of the placement after a social study then highly likely.

What documentation do I need to prove that an owner owes back HOA dues?

You would need a copy of the owners cancelled checks showing she paid.

What is my best course of action?

Best course of action is to consult with a family lawyer in your area to see what options you have legally.

Is school lunches considered a school expense which should be a cost that is split?

My guess is yes he does especially if school lunches is included in the definition of school expenses in your decree.

How can I get DNA test started if she refuses ?

Hire a family lawyer to file a paternity action in Court which will force her to provide a DNA sample.

Not sure if you can sue as you voluntarily stayed with him for 2 and half years. if there is physical abuse you should report it immediately to the...

Should we be forced to pay rent after two weeks?

The answer will come from the specific terms of your lease. Make sure you have a copy f the walk through document that spells out all the...

Can my wife kick me out of our apartment if I'm not on the lease ?

Your wife needed to legally evict you so I think it was unlawful to kick you out.

Read your home owner association by laws.