My wife's parents where in my apartment, what can I do, they have a key and a paper from my wife saying they can come and go.

time to consult with a family lawyer.

Can the executor use dads credit cards & link them to sole survivor account, that has refunds due to estate via credit card?

Don't know, consult a probate lawyer.

Verbal agreements

Seems right to me but if i were you I'd happily refund.

It works exactly the way it is spelled out in your contract with the lawyer.

When no lawyer takes the case, then can one self defend ?

You can always try that route to defend yourself.

Can I recover legal fees?

Refer to your retainer and professional services contract and speaking directly with the attorney. How the heck would we know based on a paragraph...

How long before Bar assigns fee arbit. case?

Expect up to a year depending on bar caseload.

Is there any question I can ask that doesn't get answered with "you need to retain a lawyer"

perhaps we answer general questions all the time, this forum is not a substitute for real advice such as web ms is not a substitute for seeing a...

Do ALL lawyers financially profile their clients?

Can not answer for all lawyers. Lawyers need to run a business and make sure their client is able to pay.

Can you successfully demand your counsel to lower fees/rates for refusing instruction, Mishandling/ damaging your case?

Depends on the contract you can request anything and should ask your lawyer not us.