I want to leave but We have kids and I dont know the best way to do it. If he can hold it against me if I leave?

Unclear of your question used against you for what? has he filed for divorced and custody?

If dcfs is called on my husband and not me im I going to be investigated also?

Most likely they will investigate you as unable to protect her for abuse and neglect whatever the allegation so yes.

How should I handle the next steps for contacting my employer and the detective who called?

You should run not walk in hiring a Criminal defense attorney before you ever ever talk to the police and incriminate yourself.

I am looking for a lawyer for a defamation of character case

Great look at the tab above here on AVVO find a lawyer.

What can I do too not go to inpatient treatment or be removed from my home

1. too not go to inpatient do nothing that causes a judge to think you need it. 2.Too not be removed from your home do not violate any condition...

I got a ticket, the police was hiding out of site of traffic

You can't no defense here...........................................

Your lawyer is in the best positon to answer this case knowing all the facts and evidence. Ask your lawyer.

Can I be a cna with a 4th degree assault

The specific answer will come the licensing agency sure they have a website you can explore and find your answer. Good Luck.

I got my 2nd charge of shoplifting

No way to know what a judge will do best to consult with a Criminal Defense attorney.

We have a trespassing situation to go to court on

This is unclear suggest he hire a Criminal Defense attorney to fight for him.