Should my family and I submit to a drug test after being falsely accused of doing drugs I've never seen in person before!

Sometimes it is best to do the drug test to prove the allegations wrong.

Do I need an attorney?

Take a look at the statutes on HOAs and possibly contact a HOA attorney.

Ya typically they will give up on the matter if they can't serve you.

Is it legal for an employer to arbitrarily add working hours? They run a "true up" system where they add hours to each paycheck.

IT sounds like you are getting extra money here so I don't see the problem.

Can i visit my family.

Yes you should be able to leave on a vacation and then come back.

Can my ex husband use his pension account to pay his settlement to me? He is 11 years away from retirement age. He wants me to

Typically you would get half of that pension so it does not sound correct.

Can I get my kids last name changed W/O notifying my ex?

Typically you can change the children's name for good cause.

Can i refuse visitation to the noncustodial parent if they are living in a hostile & unstable environment?

Typically the only valid reason to withhold the children is if they would be in physical danger.

Was told that I cant get child support arrears reimbursed because I am not married.

Typically being married or not is irrelevant to child support arrears and payment thereon.

Are deviations from the guidelines "REALLY" considered in VA courts?

Sounds like child support is set where it is at for now.