Can dcf take my child without giving me a reason or telling me they have done so?

The have to disclose to you the exact nature of their business with you

Is my ex husband considered in contempt of the court order? Where do I stand legally/what can I do?

You have to file a motion to enforce and motion for contempt if he is willfully not paying.

If the father of our child does not take her on the days specified in a parenting plan do I have to give him other days.

You have the right to enforce the parenting plan as written so if it says which days then those are the days he gets - no more

Where can I find a form for Motion for Court Order to Obtain Military Records with Order?

if pro se you can just send a subpoena however you do not have subpoena power you have to get the subpoena signed by the clerk.

The court has discretion to do that, yes.

If my ex-wife is not meeting the terms of the child support order, what options do I have?

I recommend once the amounts she owes exceed $500 then file a motion to enforce. Make sure you can prove she got notice of the bills she is...

What motion I need to move forward my case for sole custody?

You have to file a petition for sole custody asap. It is a difficult burden of proof to meet.

I think your chances are excellent. For sure you will need a lawyer because this procedure is complex.

What can I do to get my ex-wife to pay the child support that has been court order. She live is NY.

You have to have the case registered in NY then you can enforce it in that state.

My motion for enforcement was granted against my ex spouse, but they have not paid. What is the next step?

File a motion to enforce and have it reduced to a money judgment that earns interest.