Already did the most of the work but still need attorney ?

I strongly recommend an attorney in order to get the necessary result. Some, like myself, conduct free consultations.

How would I go about filing for divorce, but he lives in another state?

Contact an attorney. Depending on the reason for divorce and you ability to contact your spouse, the cost should be reasonable.

Can I sue my husband's girlfriend if I'm not filing for a divorce?

Yes through a concept called alienation of affection

How do i divorce my husband he has been gone for 13 years either locked up or abandoned me ,is there a way to divorce him in ?

Absolutely! There are plenty of attorneys that do divorce at a more than fair rate. Many attorneys, like myself, give free consultations.

What can I do about this?

What exactly does the letter say? Is there a warrant for your arrest?

I filed for divorce and my soon to be ex husband is asking to spend night fir the children sake? to visit more he says. Hummmm

Well it depends on what ground for divorce that you filed. If you filed for desertion,then there's a good possibility. Otherwise, it's unlikely to...

Can I file a petition to legitimize on my own?

You can but I strongly recommend you get an attorney. Procedures like that shouldn't cost too much.

What do I do?

You should contact an attorney near you. I have handled cases similar to these and I do free consultation.

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What can I do to get my court ordered child support after a year of not receiving ?

May request a writ of garnishment. An attorney can draft one up for you. Also you can hold the other child's parent under a contempt action.