Can I choose whether or not my case gets turned over to a grand jury ?

You could forego the grand jury by doing a bill of information, but you still end up with the felony. Other option might be to have an attorney to...

Can I get my license taken from me or go to jail for a 2nd offense with paraphernalia ?

Just a minor misdemeanor. Only carries a fine.

Drug abuse 2x inducing panic, menacing 2x, DUS, failure to reinstate and domestic violence

A mess. Get a lawyer. This is not the place to discuss strategy, especially with little case information available.

I would like to know what i should do next what are my rights?

File a police report for theft. That's about all you can do. Not federal.

What to do about getting my listener back ?sfter losing them because of my mistake I tried for a year almost two years to find

Any traffic attorney with your personal identifiers could help you check on your reinstatement requirements. I don't see how you could be lost in...

What are the chances of me getting jail time?

Hard to say. We need to know what you are charged with. How much damage? Which court/county? Best to speak with an attorney about situation.

Can I get out of having a wage garnishment?

Generally not without filing bankruptcy.

They will have to start the process over and pay some more court costs.... but yes, they can try again later. You just bought yourself some time...

Tough spot. Agg. Menacing charges are fairly easy to prove by the prosecutor. All they have to do is put him on the stand and have him say...

Bond revocation through a bondsman

You could tell the court he isn't living with you anymore; that will revoke his bond.