Can I prevent having to physically go to court?

Generally you must show to these types of hearings in civil cases. They can order you to appear fairly often until the judgment is paid. You can...

What do I do?

I would just contact the other car owner and offer to pay for the damage without involving your grandfather's insurance. Don't sweat it too bad.

Sounds like a civil matter for damage/collection of money. They would be foolish to try to charge you with a crime.

Is there another way to find the documents? Where should I go and/or who should I contact?

Don't presume that the docs couldn't have been destroyed. Our local courthouse lost records twice. Once to a flood and another to fire. As...

Bankruptcy

You should consult with a bk atty at a minimum. A few offer free consultations by phone.

My two older Sons where sexually abused as minors how do I help them proceed in pressing charges that will be taken seriously?

As it was already stated, you should talk to a prosecutor/detective; however there are issues with statute of limitations potentially and other...

I would get an attorney just to be safe. One only requires consent from one party.

Am I guilty of "wire tapping" if I have consent from one party?

You should get an attorney just in case. You aren't guilty of a crime because you notified one party of the recorded conversation.

What can I do if the father of my child is non-compliant with a Court Order and not allowing me communication with my child.

Only thing you can do is file for contempt. CPS won't get involved simply because he is denying communication and is violating a court order.

Can i leave my house?

Not sure anyone can answer this really. Doesn't he have voicemail? If you do leave, you should leave a note on your door that you waited until...