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Can i represent myself in supreme court

You can proceed pro se but just because you can does not mean you should proceed pro se.

NY - Who has custody when the parents are unmarried and the child lives full time with both parents?

If there is no court order, then both parents have equal rights to physical and legal custody of the child.

I am a woman who paid everything during our marriage. My soon to be ex never worked in his entire life.

I suggest to review Domestic Relations Law 236 which states: “d. In determining an equitable disposition of property under paragraph c, the...

I was wandering about a boy he was 19 she was 14 parents knew what was going on and did nothing till 4 months later and lied

Did the People prove your nineteen year old adult son had sexual relations with a fourteen year old girl on multiple occasions?

What can I do my child's mother owes 9,700 in back child support

You could consider registering the order in her home state for enforcement via the Uniform Interstate Family Support Act.

How to extend child support after a child reaches 18 years of age and graduates from High School and goes to college?

If you have a NYS issued child support order it is enforceable until the child turns age 21 unless sooner emanicipated by the court.

I suggest you review the case at: https://law.justia.com/cases/new-york/other-courts/2015/2015-ny-slip-op-50092-u.html

May one petition the court for a modification to an order outside of family court or is it just a family court option?

It’s a motion.

Can I sue in small claims court?

I suggest that you review the information at: https://www.nycourts.gov/courts/nyc/smallclaims/startingcase.shtml