Is it a crime to do this? if so what is it called?

It is possibly Harassment in the Second Degree which is a petty offense but not a crime. See: http://ypdcrime.com/penal.law/article240.htm#p240.26

Are we legally and/or financially responsible for her if she stays in NY once we move since she is 18?

You have a duty to support her until she turns 21 or is sooner emanicipatrd. It sounds like you would have an emanicipation defense if a petition...

What can I do to have her to sent me the divorce papers and actually give me a divorce with the terms I agree to.

If you want the divorce, then you should file for the divorce rather than expecting your wife to do it.

What is the consequence of driving unsupervised with only a permit?

Were you issued any tickets? If so, what sections of the VTL were you charged with having violated? If you were ticketed, I suggest you retain an...

A court could order you to contribute to the cost of your child's college education pursuant to Family Court Act 413. I suggest you have your...

Would I go to jail or be fined if i testified?

You could not go to jail for committing perjury at the age of fifteen but you could go to jail for committing perjury at the age of twenty-two....

Can I get a child support from a biological father after I marry someone who is not a biological father during my pregnancy?

I suggest you review FCA 418 which can be found at: http://codes.findlaw.com/ny/family-court-act/fct-sect-418.html

Advice

A pre arraignment conference may be held prior to the return of an indictment. The defendant will have an opportunity to review discovery material...

Advice

I suggest you review the definition of "Eligable Defendant" in CPL 216.00 which can be found at: http://ypdcrime.com/cpl/article216.htm#c216.05

Does my ex-husband need to provide a separate room for each child (being different genders) or is one legally acceptable?

There is no law that requires that the children be provided with their own bedroom.