I assume by your question that you are presently unrepresented . You should exercise your right to counsel and your right to remain silent. Do not...

I do not think you are at any real risk of having your driving privileges suspended.

Can probation issue all these sexual offender conditions even without the conviction of a sex crime?

I think you probably read those conditions are only mandatory for sex offenders.

Is it possible to get lower points or not have my insurance rate go up? Paying the fine is no problem for me.

If you considering pleaing guilty or handling this matter without an attorney, I suggest you read the information found...

I suggest you read the information found at: http://www.nyc.gov/html/nycppf/html/legal_information/dro.shtml

What can I do to get out of this marriage . I am financially stranded too.

I suggest you review the information found at: https://www.nycourts.gov/divorce/

Can I do it on my own or do I need an attorney ?

I suggest you review the case found at: http://law.justia.com/cases/new-york/other-courts/2014/2014-ny-slip-op-50675-u.html

Am I liable to pay child support if my daughter is not a US citizen?

Your wife could seek an order directing you to pay child support.

How can I get the documents delivered across state lines, and would it be wise to attempt punishment via military action?

I strongly urge you to retain a matrimonial attorney who has extensive experience handling divorces involving military personnel.

Is this legal? Do I have grounds to vacate my plea based on this?

I suggest you review Penal Law 65.10 which can be found at: http://codes.findlaw.com/ny/penal-law/pen-sect-65-10.html