My wife adults children 21yrs/18yrs16yrs Of course the 16 is a minor..has destroyed our home and I want the 21/18 to leave

If your wife is on the lease and doesn't want to put them out, you can't evict them. Consult an attorney on the matter.

Am I done with probation?

It is impossible to say. You need to contact the court / your PO to find out.

How can i drop charges as the victim in this case

Hire him an attorney. Although you are the victim, you don't control the charges; only the prosecutor does.

Will my chargers get dropped if I have a witness to testify against my reckless driving ticket.

The charges won't be dropped. That is evidence to be presented at trial.

How is the court list put together?

Generally speaking, "old" traffic citations that have been closed can't be reopened, unless extraordinary circumstances. Then an attorney may be...

If my son has missed going to probation since 2012-2014 but no new charges what will happen

He's got problems. Get him an attorney.

Can you have a traffic ticket dismissed if a fact is wrong?

That, in and of itself, is not sufficient basis to have the ticket tossed out. That is an argument if you want to fight the citation at trial.

What can I do after failing to appear in court?

Contact the court clerk to see if you can get it put back on the calendar. If not, hire an attorney.

Should I follow up with the citations I received In court ?

The answer remains the same as when you posted another version of this question and had it answered. If you want to fight the citations, hire an...

Arguably yes, but hopefully not. You're going to have to address it in court if she isn't willing to come off the accounts. Why the heck you would...