Yes, you should go to court for this. Try a nolo plea.

How will a 2 year old disorderly charge affect my chances of employment?

Yes it will show. Yes it will affect your employability.

That is not a super speeder. The fine is different depending on a variety of factors. Whether or not you are in jeopardy of losing your license...

If my mom dropped the charges, can my boyfriend be charged when I'm 16, since we had sex while I was still a minor?

She can reopen charges based on the actions when you were 15; once you are 16, you can consent. BUT there are other charges, such as contributing...

How do I get my money back? I am 23 year single mom and I have never had an apt before.

The $625 should indeed be refunded.

Will I lose my license?

Hire an attorney to get it worked for you.

You can't until the case is filed; after that point, you'll be able to check via the court.

Does my landlord and her insurance bare any responsibility?

Based on what you have stated, I see nothing that would cause liability for landlord / insurer.

Will the defendant be notified officially via email or do I have to use the courts Marshal service?

Initial service must be through Sheriff or process server.

How can you find out anonymously if you have an outstanding warrant without having to spend money cause I'm disabled.

Call the clerk of court of where you think you would have the warrant.