What steps do I need to take, to protect myself and my 4 year old daughter from an angry and abusive girlfriend/mother.

You will have to prove that the mom is a danger to the child if what you mean by "protecting her" is the mom not being allowed to see her.

I would like to now the rights i have of being the father

You have to get a parenting plan signed by a judge. Then she can't hold him from you.

How much should I expect for future pain & suffering because the negligence of a drunk driver?

It really depends on all the facts. Many of us do free consults so might as well contact someone and ask.

Step parent adopting child?

Even with the criminal history it is going to be a long, complicated thing and there is no guarantee.

What should I do at this point? It's been almost a month, can I get the 911 call?

You need to contact an attorney if you are injured.

There may be options but if you don't have UIM you might not have any.

Is it against the laws to keep your kids from talking to the other parent

It depends. Is there a parenting plan in place?

What can one do if one is being blackmailed after one committed a possible felony?

This is a very common scam. Very common

Am I divorced?

Probably if it says it was dismissed.

Who is responsible for paying medical, personal (travel, hotel, rental car, fuel), and compensation expenses?

It sounds like they are trying to hide something. Many of us give free consultations and have a lot of experience with these things. As you can see...