How likely is it to win a custody battle in the state of WA or OR if your the mother?

Your facts are difficult to follow. If this is you ex husband, there should already be a Parenting plan in place. So I do not know what you mean...

What happens to a person that has been given a court order to pay spousal support but does not have the reosurces to pay it?

It's a court order. If you cannot pay, then you would need to file a motion to suspend support until you can pay.

Non custodial parent moving out of state, no contact in over a year how will this affect us now,child support ect...

His only obligation is to continue paying support under the existing order. He does not have to advise you if he is moving. It won';t effect...

If there is no parenting plan filed, and the mother has moved to a different state, can she keep her phone number from a father?

Yes. She is not obliged to give you her private number absent so court order to the contrary.

What can I do?

In order to get an anti-harassment order against him, he would have to be served with the petition -- may not be worth the expense and effort

Can federal pension payments be awarded years after a divorce?

Sounds like is was accessed as part of a property division (which is separate from maintenance) via QDRO

Please look at your contract -- that will define what you can and cannot do, then consult with an attorney.

Am i entitled to half of the equity of the house for the 10 yrs we were married?

It all depend on what is specified n the pre-nup. That is the reason for having a pre-nup; to define who gets what in the case of divorce.

If you can't afford an attorney, be sure to ask for one at the hearing -- it should be the first thing out of your mouth.

Will judge grant asylum if prosecuting attorney files a motion in favor of my request?

Yes. to do otherwise would be foolish. Never make an assumption as to what the Judge will do.