GAL in my custody case has missed now 3 dead lines? The judge gave her an extra month it was do on the 8th, what can I do to her

Although it seems your situation is horrible, perhaps you are already doing your best.

Is there any legal right for me to file either a no contact or restraining order against a third party?

If your soon to be ex is that horrible, maybe you should ask for only supervised visitation.

Can the prosecutor use a verbal statement?

If you were being charged with a horrible crime (i.e. perjury), it would be a defense if you acted under duress. "RCW 9A.16.060 Duress. (1) In...

What advice can you give to this complicated employment/ termination situation? ?

What a horrible company. Legal workplace rights can be limited (i.e. minimum wage). See http://www.lni.wa.gov/workplacerights/.

Do I contact the prosecuter to recant my dv statement? ?

That's a horrible situation, but you can make a motion to rescind a no contact order....

Can I dismiss my parenting case ?

Washington State law doesn't require parenting plans / residential schedules, but your post describes circumstances with a high probability of...

Can I sue our public defender for damages to my family for revealing adoption

That's a horrible situation, but it doesn't appear to fit into any of the recognized categories of civil causes of action. See Eastwood v. Cascade...

That appears to be a horrible nightmare. Provide your evidence and testimony to the judge to prove your case by a preponderance of the evidence.

Can an attorney bill me for time they specifically told me they wouldn’t?

Attorneys' fees are supposed to be "reasonable". See RPC...

My spouse lied on the visa petition years back. Am I in trouble too ?

If there is trouble, you could explain it as you have.