Can a doctor do such?

See RCW 7.70. https://app.leg.wa.gov/RCW/default.aspx?cite=7.70

Do need an attorney to retrieve my auto back that my ex cosigned for.

The problem is whether it would be worth paying an attorney hundreds of dollars per hour to do that.

If you ask, you shall recieve. https://www.hhs.gov/hipaa/index.html

Can I sue a payday loan company for taking money from my bank account even though i am not their customer ?

You might have a case there. See https://app.leg.wa.gov/RCW/default.aspx?cite=19.86

I Purchased a vehicle 4 yrs ago. It has been parked. I lost the title and can’t remember previous owners name.

See https://www.dol.wa.gov/vehicleregistration/transferownership.html

Can can I get a theft in a third charge dropped from having a medical condition such as a concussion?

"RCW 9A.56.050 Theft in the third degree. (1) A person is guilty of theft in the third degree if he or she commits theft of property or services...

How and where do I locate a pro bono attorney to help me with a real estate fraud case?

Call the police and the attorneys in the prosecutor's office.

Do I have to publish service in my county or his??

"The publication shall be made in a newspaper of general circulation in the county where the action is brought...." RCW 4.28.110.

If there isn't a restraining order to the contrary, you can visit your child's school.

How do I know if this is the best plan for me? Should I get a lawyer? How do I pay for one?

In a divorce, judges are supposed to make divisions of property that are just and equitable. https://app.leg.wa.gov/RCW/default.aspx?cite=26.09.080