I gave my son up for adoption now 4 grandkids can I get temp custody of one no one wants or can’t handle.

See https://www.washingtonlawhelp.org/.

Can I be extradited from another state for a felony warrant I'm out on bail for?

Different States have different policies about extradition. See United States Constitution Article IV, Section 2, Clause 2

Can I shield a new spouses income from my restitution in a community property state??

See http://app.leg.wa.gov/RCW/default.aspx?cite=26.16

Can I have someone sited for slander?

There is a civil action for defamation of character. Hire a lawyer if you want.

Why would a creditor be upset that he can't get a person's social security money to pay of a debt?

Perhaps bankruptcy would be an option for you.

What happens to the 30 year old man who is the father of the 16 year old girl's baby?

Review http://app.leg.wa.gov/RCW/default.aspx?cite=9A.44

State agencies would be subject to State procedural rules and statutes. See http://app.leg.wa.gov/RCW/default.aspx?cite=34.05

Try the Walthew Firm: https://www.walthew.com/ or the County Bar Association: https://www.tpcba.com/public/lawyer-referral-service/

What can a family court judge do against an 18 year old girl?

Based on your statement, the 18 year old female would have no problem with the law.

Non economic damages?

See Sofie v. Fibreboard Corp., 112 Wn.2d 636, 771 P.2d 711 (1989)(right to have a jury determine non-economic damages)