How do I either force the bank to divide the debt in half and bill us separately, or how do I hold my ex responsible for part?

The debt was a community debt so the community is responsible and the bank can come after either of you. The bank was not a party to the divorce so...

If I cannot get an attorney in time, and I go to court, will the Judge be able to detain me without an attorney present?

Contempt is a serious issue and the court will want to be sure that your rights are protected. If jail time is being sought, you can be provided a...

How can I get the child support changed if I don't have money for an attorney and the paperwork confuses me?

You can file on your own, but should probably get some assistance in how to prepare the papers. The online forms have instructions. An attorney can...

An action to modify a Parenting Plan can be filed in the county where the original order was entered, the children reside, or where the custodian...

How/can I prevent her from being able to just up and leave again?

You cannot prevent her from leaving, she is free to live where she wants. I assume you want to prevent her from removing the child. Assuming you...

Should setting up a parent plan be the non custodial parents problem?

There is no legal obligation for you to file or push. Practically, you have control because you have the child. At this point, he can only see the...

Do i still have to notify him that i am going out of town with her if it doesnt interfere with any of his time?

This is hard to answer without seeing the entire parenting plan. Normally i would say you do not need to give notice if it does not conflict with...

What will it look like in the eyes of court if he has a girlfriend because he has moved on? What if living with him?

The court is not concerned about your relationship (although emotionally it may effect his wife). What will be of more concern to the court is your...

How do I go about handling this situation the right way

Unless your parenting plan prohibits this, he is free to do so. He is free to do with the child as he desires during his time, and you are free to...

Would this be considered contempt?

It is doubtful you would be found in contempt. He originally agreed, and then at the last minute (after you made plans), changed his mind.