The answer will be in the parenting plan. If it's silent about notification of a new address, the dad can't be forced to give it without a court...

At what age is a child legaly able to stay home alone?

I'm unaware of a specific law in Washington State specifying an age and time limits for leaving children home alone. CPS and the Judges would look...

Does the family have the right to take control?

If your domestic partnership was not registered, and your partner owns the house, you probably still have some rights as a tenant and resident...

Do I need to find a divorce lawyer?

Yes.

Is this abandonment?

You have added this "additional information" to your first question: "And if it is the recommendation for our future that its best I am here. I...

One parent moving out of Washington state with child. Other parent in prison . Does parent have to notify the one in prison?

Washington State's Relocation Statute requires notice to the noncustodial parent before the move is made. The noncustodial parent has the right to...

Is this abandonment

Your ex's violation of your visitations per the parenting plan is probably contempt of court, not abandonment. Abandonment is when the noncustodial...

Is it legal for the mother to have our daughter in school under another last name than what is on the birth certificate ?

There is probably nothing illegal about registering a child for college using another name, as long as there is no fraudulent intent. However, the...

I cannot find an attorney

You have an international child custody case. See my AVVO Legal Guide on the Hague Convention. I have handled a number of these cases, but cannot...

How can we still see dad but make him follow parent plan and spend time with US!! NOT his GF and KIDS?

It sounds like you kids are miserable. Your responsible relatives should consult with a good family law attorney to see if there are adequate...