Insurance companies can follow whatever dates they wish, but for court purposes: date of offense to date of offense.

Hire a lawyer or go to the courthouse and see the clerk.

Can a interogation video of myself be made available to my co defendants if its a violent crime.

Yes, your co-defendants and their attorneys will know that you squealed.

Can I sue for spiritual damage which the commercial ads made me uncomfortable?

Consider "skipping" the ad or looking away.

Can CPS bring up a drug test if drives had nothing to do with my case?

Yes, they could ask the judge to order a test since this involves children and custody.

How do I get my felony from 15yrs ago off my record ?

There's not much you can do after a prison sentence. You don't qualify for PC1203.4 "relief." You could apply for a governor's pardon, but that's...

Up to one year in county jail on the misdemeanor version of child endangerment/abuse together with a 52-week parenting class among other things.

The SOL doesn’t really apply here. She could refile at any time.

What do it do if no charges were filled initially, but now there's a complaint being filed by the D.A.

That’s a Vista case number. Retain an attorney who regularly practices there.

What can I do and what should I be preparing to do?

Too late for that. Your service is already in jeopardy.