Can you help a stay AT home mom, who's rights have been violated by her spouse and a Bergen County, NJ Judge who is bias?

Seek the advice of an attorney. I am not sure why you did not do so nearly a year ago.

I'm an unwed mother and my son is 1; child's father has not paid support, would he still be able to have joint custody?

Open a case with your local child support agency. Money and visitation are two separate issues and one cannot be used against the other.

Is it considered abandonment if my sons bio father has not visited (as stated in COURT ORDER) nor called in over a year?

Yes. If true, your husband will likely qualify to adopt the child.

My wife has sole custody of my 2 stepdaughters, would their uninvolved bio father get custody if something happened to her?

Yes. He would get custody unless you filed for guardianship.

I'm considering filing a petition to establish parentage. Father of my child is married. Any known issues I may encounter.

No. You can file a paternity action.

What do I do so that the judge knows that I want to present the discovery documents & stipulations for our divorce at MSC?

You need to comply with California Rules of Court 5153 before your MSC date.

What age can children decide which parent they want to live with?

Usually a child's wishes become important around age 13. Leaving the state and returning usually does not cause great concern for the court, but...

If you and the child live on the reservation and you file on the reservation, Indian law applies. Otherwise, California law applies.

Can a father, who hasn't had contact in over 3 years and was convicted of pos- of child porn, have parental rights terminated?

It certainly sounds like it. However, this is fact-sensitive so seek legal advice.

Dissolution child custody on original petition FL100 page two has#7 custody orders I was told is active when conformed is true?

A Petition is just a request. In order to be enforceable, you need a signed custody order, either in the form of a stipulation, an order after...