How do i get my record expunged?

Yes, from what you state, it can be done.I do not see the armed robbery from what you explain.

I was divorced in Sept 2009. He voluntarily signed the papers which gave me sole legal and physical custody. How do I stop this?

Go to court to order enforcement of the support orders and consider a TRO for non-compliance.

Harassment or not?

Until you are served, she doesn't have a leg to stand on.

Am I consider my brothers legal guardian just because he lives with me?

NO

I got subpoena do i have to go?

Yes. A subpoena such as yours is an order of court subject to contempt proceedings.

Sounds like human error. Notice would have had to been given to your friend/counsel... Counsel from New York is egregiously mistaken...again.

How can I fight a defamation lawsuit?

Very important... was what you said about this person a personal opinion or a representation of fact? If the former, not actionable. If the latter...

Can my soon to be ex-husband do anything about items of his that were sold by me to another person?

Yes. If the items were "his", he can merely add the value into the amount to be distributed in the dissolution. He would be given "credit", so to...

My brother had his back windshield smashed in by a falling block of ice at a McDonald's drive thu. Can he sue??

The big question is, besides the windshield, what are your brother's "damages"? Damages are an essential part of any personal injury lawsuit.

If your lawyer has filed a motion to be relieved in the middle of a case, do you still obtain your records?

The file is yours. Demand it.