Do I have a chance as a father to obtain custody of my 10 year old daughter? I have a criminal past...

Yes, you have a chance for custody. Contact a good family attorney to discuss it. First consultations are generally free. You will need an...

May my past empolyer contact my new employer without permisson to discuss my work history?

Yes.

My neighbor called a "police friend" on myself and my husband falsly [sp?]

Your "question" makes no sense. Please try again.

They save more than 40k plus interest. Take the money unless your medical condition is contrary.

Can some one come into your family and order the mother to get a dna test done

I am not sure on your question. Your ex can petition the court for paternity.

Do I include current husbands income and financial information in a Family Part Case Information Statement regarding ex?

I am sorry. I misspoke. To the extent of your income, merely advise the court that is dependent upon current husband . There is no need to...

Do I include current husbands income and financial information in a Family Part Case Information Statement regarding ex?

yes.

If I ask my atty. to hold off on sending in signed car accident settlement papers to the ins. co. can they disregard my request.

Your attorney is just that. Your attorney. If you have issues, discuss it. If not resolved to your satisfaction, fire the attorney and hire a new one.

Do I need to probate my grandmothers estate if I am only relative and I am joint owner on bank account,

Yes. You must submit your petition to probate for finalization.

Is a 99 year sentence the same as a life sentence.

As phrased, your question is impossible to answer.