We are family of 7 applied a form I-485 admission based on refuge status , we applied all together on May 5 2014

You are derivative on your parents' case so your green cards will follow soon.

I am married to a green card holder.how can i remain in the us with an expired visa waiver ?

You will be illegal in the U.S. until your can adjust status through your U.S. Citizen husband in 2015-2016. Keep a low profile so that you don't...

You cannot say: "If he filed appeal on time....U.S. Citizen." The immigration judge ordered you removed. Just because you are married to a U.S....

Im on F1 visa still in status, married a U.S citizen. when is the best time to apply for change of status to a green card.

You can apply now, you don't have to wait after 12 months of marriage.

Wife petition, i-130, i-485 docs, I understand that I need to bring to the interview original and copy of each document..

You need to bring original counterparts of whatever you submitted initially. The marriage certificate can be an original or a certified copy. ...

I filled I-130 in May. I was supposed to hear from them in October but there still working on the ones from April.

Check the processing times here: https://egov.uscis.gov/cris/processTimesDisplayInit.do;jsessionid=bacXD1OC9RCyFagQNRyeu

I 134 affidavit of support

You don't need an I-134 affidavit of support for a B1/B2 visa. You can provide and send her an offer of support letter while she is visiting though.

Is this a normal processing time?

If you filed a joint petition but you are separated and are living at different addresses, most likely the case will not be approved and you will...

I-864 and source of income required to sponsor parents residing outside the U.S.?

You will need the affidavit of support after the I-130 is approved and when you are at step 2 with the National Visa Center.

My exwife came here on the fiance visa. We married after 90 days. Can she still file VAWA although we married after 90 days?

Yes, VAWA forgives many procedural flaws.