You should have been present at the hearing either in person or virtually. You should have been able to address the issues you raised regarding...

Yes you will be required to pay Guideline Child support if she requests a child support order. If you come to an agreement with the mother as to...

Absolutely not. The court would not order this.

Since the two of you are in an agreement you can draft up a stipulation and file it before the hearing. It sounds like there are no attorneys...

You should consult with family law attorneys regarding this issue. You may want to consider a Pre-Marital Agreement and filing taxes separately. ...

You need to file a Request for Orders in the case and request the court to set arrearages and order payment thereon. He is likely already ordered...

Yes. You can file a request with the Court for sole legal custody based on his unwillingness to become involved. If you can afford an attorney...

You want to immediately file for Child Support. As far as obtaining an order ExParte to sell the house - it is not a proper emergency for ExParte...

No. This would not be considered abandonment.

You should ask your attorney. I am sure he/she can explain it.