My ex gf is due in July, how can I serve her papers in July if she may or may not have had it yet?

File your paternity case and have her served. This is an "unborn child".

Missing 2 contempt hearings - will the other party go to jail?

That would be great. That is a possible outcome in light of the fact that he has a bench warrant.

Can I request to have my newborn son placed with his grandmother gardianship at first court date?

I concur with my colleague. Court will look at relatives first.

What is the process of filing for grandparent visitation?

I concur with my colleagues. Why take a chance in splintering the relationship, by filing for grandparent's rights?

What steps do I need to take to get custody of my sister in laws baby

Your brother could get custody or you could file a guardianship matter.

I concur with my colleague. It is also worth the time to write and submit a response.

How can I word a custody agreement to specify to allow me the opportunity to modify visitation in the future?

Parties can be re-referred to family court services in the event they would like to modify the current agreement prior to filing any requests with...

My ex gf said she aborted our child but I don't believe her. I know when she's due. Can I take her to court?

Yes. You need to file a paternity action for an "unborn child".

Cobra or Affordable Care Act. Keep in mind there is still at least 6 months from filing of Dissolution to entry of Dissolution.

What can I do if I have joint custody but have not seen my kids in tree years

Sounds like you may need to go back to court to modify your order and explain your absence.