I wrote down the date of filing of the dissolution in divorce decree

Date of entry of judgment is the date the marriage terminated.

My ex husband hasn't paid my alimony

Earning withholding order for support is always the way to go.

How should I go about getting my 4 year old daughter from " dad" and girlfriends house without getting in trouble ?

Is there any existing court orders? If not, time to file paternity paperwork with the court and get some orders made.

How does my best friend stop her ex-husband from verbally abusing her, especially in front of their 13 year old son?

Counseling and boundary setting may be appropriate in dealing with abusive other parents.

If this upcoming weekend is my scheduled weekend to visit my children through a court order can I resume my visit?

If you have a valid order, you are good to go.

I need to file a 'Stipulation and Order' per the court in order to update the MSA...

Once the plan approves your model order, you would file with the court and get a certified copy to serve on the plan. No judicial counsel form is...

Where does she live? Does she agree?

Alimony Fraud

Hire a PI. Very inexpensive for the information you need. Then, if she is, file your RFO for reimbursement.

When would vacation technically start for my daughter on a custody bases ?

Check your judgment/order for the commencement date of the vacation time. Common language is "first Friday following the last day of school."

Need a pro-bono lawyer. I want to file a lawsuit against a San Francisco based Child Custody Evaluator for violating a agreement

I concur with my colleague. This is civil litigation and not family law. Best of luck.