What do i do in my case? do i notify her first? or do i submit paperwork & then notify her with the emergency hearing date& time

File your paperwork. Notice is required unless there is an imminent threat of harm or the giving of notice is otherwise unsafe.

Yes, you can get divorced in Ca. Being married elsewhere is not an issue.

What can i do?

File a paternity action and get custody orders. Start keeping a calendar.

Yes, you may add him to a restraining order as a protected party.

How do I find out if my wife got an annulment or divorce

Go to the local courthouse and search for your name in the civil registry.

Can a mom or a daughter ask for back support

She cannot ask for back support if you were never served with a summons and complaint or other legal paperwork asking for support.

Can I get charged?

This is a criminal law question. Changing category now.

If plaintiff asks for documents and defendant complies, can they still ask the judge to allow them to do subpoena?

Sure, the defendant is free to subpoena the documents if they are not provided.

HELP!! How do I get my daughters back?

Call the police immediately! Your facts describe a criminal act.

Can I have full physical and legal custody of children if Ilive live part time in another state?San Jose CA

Yes, you can file for a move away and the court will make orders regarding custody (legal & physical).