Please file your paternity action asap. If you don't reach an agreement, file your RFO and get custody orders.

The supervisor's job is not to enforce orders and force the other parent to comply with the visitation times.

Any advice?

Well, if you aren't paying her, isn't that another form of proof?

What can i do to make sure the father of our child cant take him away and keep him from me?

Time to file your paternity action so you can discuss the visitation issue and submit an agreement to the court.

If both were wanting to reconcile but hearing was soon, would we get into trouble if neither of us were to be at that hearing?

Better to show up or file a Request for Dismissal.

File a reply declaration and object to the document being untimely.

My wife left me 2 days after I was laid off from my job for another man who was a co-worker of hers breaking our lease and bills

I concur with my colleague. Once you are separated and use post-separation funds, you may be entitled to reimbursement.

Language regarding "age appropriate toys" may be in order.

Would my sons father who I only lived with for 10 months be considered my previous domestic partner?

I concur with my colleague. Many applications should have a definition as to who needs to be disclosed.

Can I Present A Picture / Faces / Strangers of 4-h kids To The Court?

What is the relevance? Courts are busy and I am sure you do not want to upset the court by showing pictures without explaining the relevance.