Both sides to a Dissolution action must exchange their Declaration of Disclosure with the other party to the case. This form let's the court know...

Do I get a notice when the process of the divorce is started?

I would file here in Los Angeles rather than make the drive up north. If he has already filed, he needs to have you served.

What do I do if my daughter is in Mexico with non biological parent but he won't give her back and she is a us citizen?

I concur with my colleague. International cases should not be done alone.

Alimony questions: Ex-husband recently laid off and since, stopped court ordered alimony.

The burden is on him to modify the order. You would likely need a new wage assignment upon his obtaining subsequent employment.

What happens if husband does not file a response to my divorce or RFO petition but only files his own RFO?

This question was answered elsewhere.

Not in mediation and I doubt he wants to admit he is an alcoholic and submit to random breathalyzers etc. talk to the lawyer/judge about Soberlink.

Can I file for a default judgement and win it if he only filed an RFO and no response to the divorce petition?

You can file a request for default if no response has been filed but.... he can file to have it set aside.

Can a noncustodial parent be legally accountable if she conspired to kidnap a missing child?

I concur with my colleague. Contempt of court is your remedy.

How do I go about getting a family restraining order drop

You can appear at court with the victim and have it dismissed.

How do I ask for Ex Spouse's medical records? To determine custody

If you have sole legal and physical custody, why would you want to expend additional resources on hiring an attorney and a full evaluation?