Can I violate my own restraining order?

You did nothing illegal. The order prohibits her, not you from contact. In fact she violated the order by contacting you. Legally you have...

Yes. As long as you are not otherwise precluded, I.e. Warrants or other non travel exclusions. A misdemeanor drug charge won't prevent your travel.

What type of information comes up when you do a live fingerprint scan

If your case has already been dismissed you have little to worry about. However the wheels of government can work slow. What I mean by that is...

How can I avoid jail time?

You are unlikely to face any jail time, you will likely be facing probation a fine and restitution. What is more important is finding a way to not...

Unfortunately it is possible to get in trouble due to other people lying. Best thing you can do is to get a permanent restraining order, his lies...

How can I reverse the charges and fix my wrong. I can't have my husband go to jail for a year because of my jelousy

First, you should get your own criminal defense attorney because you might get in trouble. If what you are saying is correct, filing a false...

Is there an alternative charge to substitute domestic violence so that my immigration benefits will not be affected?

As long as the case is not a felony, your attorney might be able to talk the DA into a different non-DV charge. For example PC 415, generally...