If she doesn’t work, someone has to support your kids until you ask the court for seek work orders for her.

Your only option is probably to make nice.

You can each sign the attached PC 13100 affidavit if the estate is under $150K https://www.courts.ca.gov/documents/Affidavit_personal_property.pdf

You need to prepare a Judgment that matches your Petition exactly - along with a FL-190 and an FL-170

It could take anywhere from 3 to 6-9 months depending on how much mom fights it - but even if you get the approval, it is stayed for 30 days for...

You can cancel insurance with consent of the other spouse -which you had - so you should not be in trouble.

It’s not your job to do anything and there’s nothing you can do.

If you aren’t personally obligated on the debts, the creditor didn’t rely on your income to grant the credit, and the debt was actually incurred...

….and it would have to filed within 2 years of the date of entry of Judgment.

The first thing that has to happen is that probate has to opened if either there is real property, the assets total over $150,000, or the devisees...