I don’t know who in “child support” told you that but i assume it was a department clerk and suggest you take their opinion with a grain of salt;...

You need the disclosures to you can intelligently waive whatever rights you may have and not enforced.

Correct - it is up to you to enforce an order by filing the appropriate document(s). Perhaps an OSC re Contempt - and hire an attorney; you can...

As long as you list them and prove their existence, they will be divided by agreement or at trial by a judicial officer.

Generally, coverage from one parent is sufficient - especially if there are no large co-pays.

You have to have an open case - either dissolution or paternity - but you can stipulate with the other parent to a certain child support order...

You need to file a Petition for Conservatorship with the probate department.

They are children and it is not yet appropriate for them to make the decision to go or to not go. What would you do if they refused to go to school?

File an RFO to modify child support to exclude this expense, ask that it be paid directly to the caregiver in the future if in re-occurs, and ask...

You will have to petition for guardianship and show that it’s in her best interest to stay with you.