I fail to see how someone with 90% custody of one child and 100% custody of the other child without court orders is getting “pushed around” by the...

Without any further accusations, I doubt a court would find fault with a father sleeping with his toddler daughter - especially if his available...

You can only file an appeal; if there was a court reporter, you must request the transcript from that reporter and have an appellate attorney...

Agreed - and “to get on calendar” means to set a court date for a hearing on a motion for which you might need the documents that you are subpoenaing.

Yes - and you can get a copy of your Judgment on the court’s website: https://www.lacourt.org/

It is almost always the case that the parties split the cost of a QDRO - and you have an interest in a survivor benefit if the plan offers it.

You apparently have custody already; you might need a lawyer to get to filing the Judgment .

You needed to modify the actual court order

You can of course ask but if he doesn’t agree, you would have to get a court order to prevent her presence and show that it is putting the baby in...

It doesn’t apply unless you reside in California - especially at the time that you are filing for divorce.