If one of you has filed for divorce, then judge will in essence “force divorce” by allowing the process to proceed.

You can - but the request must relate to the issue(s) raised by the moving party.

They are “our” kids, and it wold probably benefit your child to have dual passports. I don’t know the requirements for Portugal but normally both...

Post-Judgment, and expending on terms in Judgment, you probably will have to show a “substantial change of circumstance” since entry.

Here’s a link to instructions: https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/parentage/process-to-establish

Contact an Elder Abuse attorney for your father - and changing the category to Elder Abuse / or ???

Just file your FL—300 - but not to “modify” custody but to establish it. The request in the Petition is just to let your spouse know what you are...

Is he paying the mortgage or rent? Is he paying utilities? Is he buying groceries? What specifically is he denying you?

Maybe because they don’t have it. If it was filed with the court, get it there.

Assuming your grandmother is your guardian, then your dad would file a petitioner to terminate guardianship in which your grandmother would joint.