It depends on whether he has given you your community share of the proceeds, and even if so, did he sell it a fair market value?

…adding that your mom - as the innocent bystander - has a ‘quasi-community’ interest in the home, so find an attorney who will work with you...

You can - but the stealth recording is illegal and can’t be admitted into evidence. CA is a two-party consent to record.

You can inform the judge that you’re not proceeding with the divorce for health reasons but how you do it depends on what is at issue on the court...

It’s not up to the judge - it’s up to your opposing party, although I must say that 90 days is not reasonable.

What’s the point of modifying an order that you’re going to then set aside? Just file to set it aside and then it will be reopened and modified.

You would use #2 (because the allegations are no longer pending) and you want to establish a co-parenting relationship without allegations of abuse.

No - but it would probably be easier to hire one just to prepare and serve them; otherwise, you’ll have to prepare and get the court to issue them.

Try hiring a professional process server who will provide you with a declaration of due diligence if necessary.

Yes - but if the other party and the court don’t agree, you will have to file a Request for Order for Continuance which can be granted with “good...