What is penalty for spending profit sharing prior to final dissolution?

You need to demand through discovery the complete records of her plan.

What can I expect if I refuse to drop my children off at my exes house because of their current emotional state

It of course depends on your ex - but it is a violation of a court order. You have no personal knowledge of any emotional abuse.

Of course he has rights if he is found to be the father; you can't expect support without involvement. However, he won't get full custody.

Court orders ?

You don't have sole custody until you file a Request for Order to modify your existing custody orders but you do have good facts to support your...

Do i have a strong case to be able to win complete child custody over my son?

If he was convicted (and took a plea) for DV, then there is a presumption against him getting custody, so you do have a good chance.

Is an ex-spouse entitled to any percentage of my military pension if they are remarried?

Her interest in your pension is a property right that isn't modified by her re-marriage. The child support must be arrears from prior payments...

If if I don't have a written lease agreement is it legal for a landlord to make changes like restricting areas or access to lau

I've changed the practice area to Landlord/Tenant - but the best option would be to move. You do have options but without the protection of rent...

What happens if either parent has custody of the child and one parent moves to another state and ends up in jail?

I guess the parent in jail would lose custody.... or at least you can ask that the custodial schedule be modified because the other parent now...

It is an obligation and if you don't respond it will become a court order and will include sanctions in the form of attorney's fees.

Where can I find out exactly how much I owe, if any, for child support?

I suggest contacting the child support agency in Maryland.