We are about to file my spouse I 130 application and I 485 application concurrently but we have some few questions in mind.

If there are any prior convictions or history of criminal arrests, you should hire an attorney to file your Petition and not do it on your own.

Can I go back to the states i’m On pending asylum case I left the states without applying for advance parole ??

What country are you from? Is the B1/B2 multiple entry? Do you have a job here? If there is a consulate near you, you may apply for AP there. ...

The I-765 processing should not be more than 3.5 months in California. However, you can still ask with a doctor's letter and see what happens. ...

How do I get out of my sticky situation?

You have a complicated case and need to consult with an immigration attorney so you can have proper advice and representation through the process.

There many US certificate programs that would entitle you to get OPT afterwards. The H1B visa is a different story, depends on your future...

I am unclear as to what your question is, however, now you have to wait the 45 days anyway.

Do I have to return to my country for my immigrant visa interview?

You filed of your I-130. There are more facts needed here so you can do it the right way. I highly recommend that you or your relatives consult...

What should I do if I don't have all forms of I-94 of previous entries?

You can online : https://i94.cbp.dhs.gov/I94/#/home

I agree with my colleagues. You an also write a letter and withdraw your I-90. You will of course lose your fee.

OPT is expiring and I want to enroll at another university

You should contact the school where you will do your PhD early on and they will issue the new I-20.