How much would it cost to deal with probate in Oklahoma and get 2497.54 back from someone else who collected without me knowing

There is no way to be able to answer this without more details. You will need to schedule an appointment and discuss the matter with an attorney.

What should I do next ?

You should seek an attorney in your area and discuss the situation with them.

Multiple Trusts, which Trust controls?

It depends on how the trusts were funded. You can have multiple trusts each funded with different assets. You'll need to have an attorney take a...

What type of lawyer do we need and what should be our next step?

You will need to talk with a Probate Attorney in the state where the home is located. Part of this answer will come down to how the house is...

The answer to your questions depends on both State Law and what the trust says. Typically Arizona allows a Trustee to charge "reasonable" hourly...

Where do we start and who do we call

They need to go see a lawyer. A lot is going to depend on how the house and other assets are titled. There is also the possibility they will need...

Why aren't my Probate Letters not honored?

The Letters appointing you as Personal Representative should grant you full access to the estate's assets. However, understand that the bank will...