How do I file for a divorce if I don't know where he's at?

Get with an experienced local family law attorney who can help you on this issue.

How do i go about on getting legal paperwork for my daughter now that she moved back w/me after 14yrs of living w/ her dads mom

You say grandma adopted daughter, by that I presume you mean legally adopted. That generally means you have no rights to daughter in that you...

Does the father have to be notified if he is unknown

From what you say, the court has already told you that you need him! Get with an experienced local family law attorney.

Can my son be prosecuted for mean text messages he and his ex-wife have exchanged since their divorce a year ago?

If you mean criminally, it would depend on the actual content. You need to get with a criminal attorney on that. If you mean civilly, it again...

How can I get an extension for a hearing which starts in 10 min

Tell that to the judge, and good luck. And, you may want to look for a new attorney, someone who will talk with you before a hearing.

Ia a financial order the same as child support?

Sounds like you should have changed the custodial arrangements as well. Technically you say the rent and utilities are in lieu of child support. If...

Can a family court order contradict Virginia statute?

The judge can order what he did, and perhaps you could reverse it on appeal, depending on exactly why the judge ordered it. You don't say way, nor...

What rights do I have as a mother wanting to leave the state of New Jersey with my son?

If no case has been filed, and no custody orders issued, then he generally cannot stop you, but do check with an experienced local family law...

How can my child's father be put on the birth certificate without me?

Check with an experienced local family law attorney but somebody is pushing the envelope because dad can have child with him without name on birth...

Your friend is in a real mess and needs to get with an experienced local family law attorney. Quit messing around, and get an attorney.