Could I lose 50/50 custody of my kids because mom says they need to be with her more?

Court will listen to a parent wishes but as said before they must show some evidence other than just wishes to support their requests.

Can I sue for any equity of home? Also Can I request the judge to assign a agent to put home for sale?

Yes but depends upon quite a bit. Obtain counsel

What can I do to have mother of kids cover insurance too

Obtain counsel and have said counsel seek modification of any previous order to spell out insurance responsibilities per parent.

When can I stop the garnishment? After bankruptcy? Or right now since I am filing next week?

You must file and provide notice to garnisher of filing. Usually a call from bankruptcy attorney can stop this from happening further.

Can I file bankrupt with small claims judgement and business loan?

Same response. Get counsel and have a review one asap

Can I file bankrupt on mortgage loan? And will she be made to refi or loose home?

Second third etc what was said. Retain counsel don't mess with this alone.

Can he take me back to court for contempt if I have tried to comply to no avail and am trying to save both our credit scores?

Compliance with court order takes precedent over credit scores. File immediately for order relief and then take action if approved by court. If...

How do I proceed in righting this wrong. I am interested in clearing my name, and putting an end to these false accusations.

I defended a case very similar to yours not too long ago. Make sure formal accusation as said previously and document everything. Also a formal...

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What's my options on ex not obeying divorce decree?

Agreed. Retain an attorney and file necessary motions to force his hand to comply with decree.

What can I do in the mean time to not et screwed over? I only want what's fair

To reiterate the professional advice... Hire a family law attorney to address all your concerns. A motion for temporary orders can possibly...